Life as We Like It

Do you ever think about the difference between having your own biological children and adopting? In "Life as We Know It" starring Katherine Heigl and Josh Duhamel, her best friend is married to his best friend and the two friends have a baby. Heigl and Duhamel don't like each other much, but have had to spend time together over the years, because of their friends. They had a terrible blind date once, but now pick on each other like a big brother and little sister. When their friends die in a car crash, they find out that the will gives custody of the baby to the two of them, TOGETHER! We all love our nieces and nephews, right? We love our friend's kids. We hear of people all the time adopting children and raising them as their own. Years later, when some of the kids grow up and meet their biological parents, they still consider their adoptive parents their real parents, because they're the ones who read them bedtime stories, went to every Little League game, helped them with their homework, stayed up with them in the middle of the night when they were scared or upset and taught them the ways of the world. So many people have kids for one reason or another, but aren't there for them. They abandon them, whether physically or emotionally. They say (who are they? I don't know... people, I guess) that you can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends. Many people consider their friends family, because they're the ones, who are there for them when they need it the most. Then, there are the adopted kids, who say they never felt like they belonged in their family. They didn't feel like they fit in. They felt like an outsider. Some mothers who adopt say they never felt that connection with their adopted child that forms between mother and child during pregnancy. As with anything, every case is different. Until you go through it yourself, you'll never know. As with anything, adoption is a gamble, but so is having biological children. You can do your very best and they can still get in with a bad crowd, turn to drugs or run away from home. There are no guarantees in this life. That's probably the ONLY guarantee. Wait, so that means there is ONE guarantee. Anyway, you know what I mean. Just do your best and hope for the best. That's really all we can do.